Long-time member Marlane Bernstein passed away on Sept. 4. The following is an obituary written by her daughter and husband, member Marc Bernstein. We mourn her passing. -Janet Glass
Marlane Bernstein died at home in her sleep, her husband, Marc by her side on September 5th 2015.
For five years she lived with pancreatic cancer enduring pain, invasive treatments and the general wear and tear wrought by this disease.
True to her nature to make the best of any situation, even one as grave as a diagnosis of terminal cancer, she continued with one of her favorite activities, reading. During the period of her illness she finished more than 400 books.
Marlane had always had an inquisitive mind. She attended Cornell University to study Home Economics but she found her way into languages and art classes. Her excellent ear for languages enabled her to become fluent in Spanish, conversant in French, and able to converse in Italian.
Marlane was an activist and her work with the homeless earned her the first Ethics in Action award given by the Westchester Ethical Society.
Marlane and Marc moved to Putnam County to be close to their grandchildren. Soon after arriving Marlane joined the Highland Garden Club and eventually became President.
She also served on the board of the Van Cortlandtville Historical Society, and helped spearhead the Society’s work with fourth graders. She loved to dress up in nineteenth century garb to bring the one-room schoolhouse to life.
Despite her formidable intellect, she possessed a child-like wonder, suspending disbelief to create a magical Halloween and Christmas for her family.
Marlane was principled, and by example, could inspire others to follow a difficult course. She will also be remembered as elegant, gracious and a wonderful hostess.
Her family was the center of her life. Her daughter, Martell, Henry, her son, and his sons, Zach and Josh, she showered with love; and yet, there was always plenty left for me, her husband.
So sorry to hear of her passing. I know that my parents, Jack and Janice Rubenstien, cared for you
both very much. I’ve been missing my dad from the same disease since 1/13/98. My mother just passed away 1/27/15 here in Michigan at our home and I am having a tough time. You sent some nice notes to my father when he was ill and that meant a lot to him.
So sorry to learn of Marlane’s passing- I remember when you both were active at Bergen Ethical and I enjoyed caring for your cat when you went on vacations— Marlane was a lovely and warm person who will be missed. All the best to you at this difficult time.
Very saddened to hear of this loss. Marlane taught my daughter origami during the Bergen Society’s Community Weekend more than a decade ago. It has stayed with us all.
Best to Marc and the family.